Depending on a man doesn’t automatically render a woman weak. Choosing to rely on another person for financial security requires a significant amount of trust. In today’s post-feminist world, many of us college-educated girls got married after graduation, had babies, and became stay at home moms by choice. We don’t have to rely on our husbands to provide for us; we choose to. We are strong, dependent women.
Women are often encouraged to not rely on a man. We are told we need to learn to change the oil in our cars, fix the leak under the kitchen sink, and earn enough money to pay the bills and buy ourselves our own steak dinner. But strength doesn’t always mean going it alone and providing for yourself. Being strong also means forfeiting part of your sense of autonomy for the sake of becoming part of something greater than yourself. Managing a household and serving as the primary support structure of a family benefits all members of the household.
We allow ourselves to discover our own inner strength by choosing to increase our dependence on our husbands We are strong enough to teach our kids to stand up to bullies at school, to fight for our family’s health and happiness, and proudly declare ourselves stay at home moms because we are strengthened by our equally strong, supportive husbands.
We can get jobs, grow careers, earn salaries, afford vacations, and live independently. We don’t have to rely on our men, but we choose to. And therein lies our strength.