Most experts agree, that if you want your kids to take the idea of abstinence seriously, you need to instill the concept of “wait until you are married,” early on. You cannot expect a teen to abstain from sex, once they have already become sexually active.
Even though kids and teens face a barrage of sexual images and wrong information about sex from peers and the media, parents are in a unique position to know and understand your kids, and to set your family values early on, including ones dealing with sex.
Setting and Communicating Family Standards
According to Focus on the Family, a non-profit organization dedicated to Christian values, family standards are important. Young people often do not know what parents expect of them regarding sexual purity and sometimes feel they are getting mixed messages. It’s important that parents be clear about their expectations. If you presume your teen will be abstinent, you need to explain your expectation clearly.