Like everyone, I’m a busy woman with a lot on my plate — including a career and raising a family. Feeling stressed isn’t exactly atypical.
Here’s the thing, I KNOW I’m an impatient person, probably more so than other moms in similar situations. It’s a character flaw I work on daily, and I’m particularly cognizant of letting it sneak out when I’m with my toddler.
When my son was really little, that was an easy emotion to monitor and suppress because he allowed me to lead. But now he’s three, so he’s at the age where he is establishing his independence. While that’s great and totally normal and a quality you WANT in a child, it’s incredibly hard to navigate when you’re naturally impatient yourself.
Most days can feel like a struggle. He wants to put on his own shoes, even when we’re running late for something. He wants to brush his own teeth even though it takes an exorbitant amount of unnecessary time. He wants to clean up his own toys, even though he’s awful at it and I’m just going to have to do it again, later.
My point is that being a parent requires every bit as much of a learning curve as being a kid. You may be teaching them how to use a spoon or say “please” or potty train, but they’re teaching you all sorts of things, too.
Or, at least they SHOULD BE teaching you if you are willing to pay attention.