When you’re a single parent, holidays are awkward. Probably the most awkward day of all for single moms and dads are where you are supposed to get a pamper day that’s all about you.
As a single parent, Mother’s Day was always a day where I felt my singlehood the most.
I wanted to enjoy the day with my babies, but at the same time I wanted to feel special. Not that it doesn’t feel great to be able to afford to treat myself to a dinner or a movie with my favorite sidekicks, it always does.
There’s just something nice about the element of surprise and anticipation. Having another adult around to help lead the little ones in that direction is ideal. Kids don’t always know what to do on their own. For a long time I had a pity-me-attitude without a partner to help in this area, but now I see things a little differently. I think that holidays are valuable time to demonstrate how important it is to honor yourself and others. It’s an opportunity to grow closer to a child and to show that there’s no shame in feeling like you want to be included or treated nicely, just because.
Mother’s (and Father’s) Day encourage rest. There are spas that allow both mom and child to enjoy a spa experience together. For example, salt rooms now have parent and child areas where children can play while their parents relax and unwind. Massage parlors, admittedly costly, also have spa packages where children can get a little foot rub while mom or dad get their shoulders or back worked on.
Order delivery. It may not be five-star restaurant quality but who doesn’t love a delivered meal with a movie on a Sunday afternoon. Even though children love to be outside, they may be willing to sacrifice a little afternoon play time in exchange for a movie with snuggles. It’s a win-win for all.
Taking time to encourage children to step out of their own me-thinking and to focus on someone else, their parent during a special holiday is a wonderful opportunity to teach mutual love and care.